Fifteen minutes with her........
As I entered the city bus, a teenager girl smiled at me and offered the seat near her "yanha baith jaaiye (sit here)",she said....She was one among the group of teenagers, going to their college..some boys some girls....some girls wearing veil/burakha while others were in white salwar kurta...they were all having fun with exchange of witty coments.....
within a couple of minutes we exchanged few general questions and answers..I asked her whether wearing a veil is compulsory for girls....she told that wearing the veil is not complusory in their college,it is more of a family concern..in some families a girl can't go out side home, after a certain age, without wearing the veil..but her mother is not that much strict, her father is no more and so her mother has to go to work...
I asked her,if she likes to wear a veil or not...she replied that "I don't mind wearing it,because it is just an outfit and in any case it can't change the inner me, who is free!!!! aur fir shaadi ke baad to pahanana hi padataa hai!"
She told me that although wearing a veil is not compulsory in their college but girls are not allowed to talk to boys at all...they can't talk to thier classmates(boys)......and can't exchange any study material with them.......she laughed and said how ridiculous all this is,,but this is the way it is.......eveyday some boys commute in the same bus as we girls and we do talk and there is nothing wrong in doing so......
her destination was near...she stood up from her seat and arranged the dupatta neatly on her head......we waved at each other ,bidding a good bye .....
I was thinking about her and about the other smart girls who were draped in veils, all the beauty was peeping out of thier two glittering eyes.......to be progressive one need not necessarily be rebellious!!!!!
Those young girls were BOLD AND BEAUTIFUL...bold with their thoughts and beautiful with their feminity...though their bodies were covered as much as possible...........
As I entered the city bus, a teenager girl smiled at me and offered the seat near her "yanha baith jaaiye (sit here)",she said....She was one among the group of teenagers, going to their college..some boys some girls....some girls wearing veil/burakha while others were in white salwar kurta...they were all having fun with exchange of witty coments.....
within a couple of minutes we exchanged few general questions and answers..I asked her whether wearing a veil is compulsory for girls....she told that wearing the veil is not complusory in their college,it is more of a family concern..in some families a girl can't go out side home, after a certain age, without wearing the veil..but her mother is not that much strict, her father is no more and so her mother has to go to work...
I asked her,if she likes to wear a veil or not...she replied that "I don't mind wearing it,because it is just an outfit and in any case it can't change the inner me, who is free!!!! aur fir shaadi ke baad to pahanana hi padataa hai!"
She told me that although wearing a veil is not compulsory in their college but girls are not allowed to talk to boys at all...they can't talk to thier classmates(boys)......and can't exchange any study material with them.......she laughed and said how ridiculous all this is,,but this is the way it is.......eveyday some boys commute in the same bus as we girls and we do talk and there is nothing wrong in doing so......
her destination was near...she stood up from her seat and arranged the dupatta neatly on her head......we waved at each other ,bidding a good bye .....
I was thinking about her and about the other smart girls who were draped in veils, all the beauty was peeping out of thier two glittering eyes.......to be progressive one need not necessarily be rebellious!!!!!
Those young girls were BOLD AND BEAUTIFUL...bold with their thoughts and beautiful with their feminity...though their bodies were covered as much as possible...........
posted by rachana at
1:49 AM
15 Comments:
As long as they r happy with the outfit its OK ! But then who is asking them the question or right to choose!
Fact remains that they take it as part of their culture and there has to be no opinion abt it.
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Manish Kumar, at 18 September, 2006
hello manish.. are you saying its wrong on my part to ask them if they like wearing it or not??
//there has to be no opinion about it//?
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rachana, at 18 September, 2006
Loved the bit bout them being bold n beautiful.. Frankly i never realised that muslim girls living under that veil were sch a bold lot. Its nice to know that this generation is coming out of the hippocracies laid out by the stereotypes. But one thing that remains to be realizd by them is that marriage is not the be all end all of their lives. So if not now, I'm sure they will soon realize this and look forward to a brighter 2moro..
Cheers :)
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MicroCosm, at 18 September, 2006
I guess what she said sums it up alll pretty well. Freedom has got nothing to do with chains, does it??
:)
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Movie Mazaa, at 19 September, 2006
she must be a sweet and sober girl.
Nice post.
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vandy, at 19 September, 2006
Are nahin Rachna ji lagta hai meri english bad se badtar hoti jaa rahi hai :p
Let me clarify :
But then who is asking them the question or right to choose!
yahan who se mera matlab muslim society se tha ki na ye prashna wo apne samaj ki ladkiyon se poochte hain aur na hi is bare mein unko koyi choice dete hain ya opinion mangte hain.
Isliye aage likha ki fact remains ki ladkiyan khaaskar madhyam aur nimna madhyam varg ki ise apne religion or culture ki requirement ki terah leti hain kuch khushi se leti hongi, kuch anmane dhang se.
Haan ek baat add karna chahoonga ki jo samaj ke banaye gaye kuch niymon ki avhelna karta hai ye humesha juroori nahin ki wo aisa dikhane ke liye kar raha ho ki vo auron se progressive hai. ye us vyakti ki vyaktigat soch bhi ho sakti hai na ki apne ko ooncha dikhane ka dambh.
Isi tarah jaisa ki aapne kaha ki veil pahanne se hi koyi ye conclusion nikaal le ki koyi dakiyanoosi vyaktitva hoga to wo bhi ghalat hoga .Like the girl u met with free flowing spirit.
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Manish Kumar, at 19 September, 2006
its good that they are bold and beautiful
but then why aren't they getting out of that "shaadi ke baad.........." sort of stereotype????
anyway i admire them for not compromising with their intrinsic self!
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ketki, at 19 September, 2006
I've wondered how they manage to wear the dresses in the scorching heat of Chennai. Yeah !! we do a lot of things just for the society..as long as we have our freedom of thoughts, I feel there is no harm in accepting certain customs just to be in the herd ;-)
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Pavithra, at 19 September, 2006
Rachana : Other things apart, like your question asking conversation persona.
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Mumbai Guy, at 20 September, 2006
hmm interesting
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AJ ! Serendipity !!!, at 21 September, 2006
hi, i was searching something and fortunately found this blog, its great.
your way of explaining a simple incident is good enough.As far as Burkha is considered, i hate the tradition. in your short story too, girl was agreeing herself that she wil be requiring to wear it after marriage in any case. so it was her way of living life that way, she was taking things easily, but what about those who dont want to wear that.
Actually , I dont know why, but muslims are not accepting the advancement of society as a whole, there is a piece of muslim society who is accepting all the developments in a normal way. And its my request to all of you who are reading this, please dont take it in any personal way.When i talk about muslims i talk of all muslims around the globe.
in the recent case in pakistan, a girl and her mother was raped because her mother had shown the courage to make her daughter litterate even upto masters.
thats what i hate most. some people actually dont want to let others grow, because they have a feel of fear that if all will be having equla knowledge or status, then who will treat them a s MAHARAJAs.
anyways.
thanks a lot for your article.
I hope you people will support me to be a friend of yours.
thanks
gaurav
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Gaurav Astavekra, at 21 September, 2006
really these girl can stand against the extremism....
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Abhishek Upadhyay, at 21 September, 2006
@ aint,,thanks for ur coments!
@ panini,,thanks for your kind words..
@ velu,,//Freedom has got nothing to do with chains, does it??//
No it doesn't !!!
@ vandy,,welcome!! thanks a lot!
@ manish,,thanks again for clarifying..aur han aapki eng badtar nahi balki hamari samajh kamajor hai shayad!! aur aapakee aage kahi baato se ham sahamat hai!
@ketki thanks.
@ pavithra,,yes i also always wonder how they manage in hot conditions!!
@ mumb guy,,thanks a lot!!
@ sumit,,thank you!
@ajay,,thanks!!
@gupt,,glad to know that u liked my write up!! thanks a lot!! u are welcome here!! do visit again!
@ abhishek,,hmmm let us hope so!
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rachana, at 22 September, 2006
simple clothing and liberal thinking !! :)
its much better than some of them who are all gorgeous anmd sexy in an ultra mod dress..but only till they open thr mouth to speak.
btw..nicely written :)
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~Lord Anshul, at 25 September, 2006
@ anshul,, thanks for ur coment!
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rachana, at 26 September, 2006
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